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  1. We are also raising our boys to be knights and gentlemen where the world generally expects wimps or barbarians. Guns, swordplay, wargaming, examples of real men and a good dose of moral training should do the job. Currently they are enjoying wargaming (Currently Lord of the Rings or Pirates) which we often post on our blog. Whatever movies we watch or books which we read or listen have examples of emn – good and bad – and we take the opportunity to teach through their examples as well as real men and fathers we know.

  2. Thanks for the comment in my blog, Ian–I enjoyed your essay. Catapults are popular in my house too….Fisher Price has some good ones on the castle. My kids figured out that plastic Easter eggs are the perfect ammo šŸ™‚

    Any more Good Guy lit you can recommend to a 14-year-old boy? He’s done LOTR and Narnia already & wants more!

  3. I also recommend the Chronicles of Prydain, Midshipman Quinn, Junia, Marcus, and I used to love the classic books like the Yearling, Old Yeller, Big Red, etc.

  4. I suspect I know who is going to play with the catapult. It will be minor miracle if the kids ever get to launch anything….

  5. My son is only 4 so I HAVE to do most of the work.

  6. Codes of chivalry and “being a gentleman” were devised by MEN to keep the innocent (women and children) safe…

    As if a man could never be innocent, eh? By the way, I’ve never noticed any modern woman, no matter how sotted with modern mainstream feminism she may be, fret about women being treated like children when being “safe” is at issue.

    …from the brutality and roughness of men.

    Who protects men from the brutality and roughness of women? Nobody, for the lives of men and boys are considered expendable. This is illustrated by the Crucifixion.

  7. While chivalry has fallen out of favor thanks to feminism, women have gotten the raw end of the deal.

    Chivalry has fallen out of favour? Thanks, I’ll tell that to the next man who makes a stink about me holding a door for him, or the next person tells me that I hate romance if I speak out against the assumption that a man pays for the meal (rather than the two people agreeing on a payment method that they both want).

    I have yet to figure out how it is better for men to treat women like men instead of like women.

    It’s not — it just reinforces the idea that the male is the default. But that’s not what feminism is aiming for. We want people to be treated as people, with the same respect, decency, and human rights that are afforded to everyone else. The idea of treating someone “as a man” or “as a woman” all to often boils down to treating them like the stereotype of a man and the stereotype of a woman, which robs them of the ability to fully express themselves if they have traits that don’t conform to their society’s view of “man” and “woman”.

    In simpler terms, we want the women who find satisfaction in working to be valued as highly as the women who find satisfaction in being stay at home moms, but so too do we want the men who find satisfaction in being stay at home dads to be valued as highly as those who find satisfaction in working. And if your view is that the stereotypes of men and women are what men and women essentially are, then what’s the harm in giving a person the ability to go a different path? If their innate qualities are the opposite, they will eventually come back to where they’re most comfortable.

    Codes of chivalry and “being a gentleman” were devised by MEN to keep the innocent (women and children) safe from the brutality and roughness of men.

    You do realize that chivalry here sounds like the mafia: men protecting women from themselves at the cost of the women’s autonomy. Not exactly a deal that I’d want to take.

    Personally, I think that instead of “chivalry” I’d rather see us teaching common courtesy and respect for our fellow human beings to children. I’d rather see emphasis on helping out others regardless of their gender, treating our spouses as partners, communicating in our relationships about what we both want instead of relying on cultural assumptions to do our thinking for us. I’d rather have a system that is aimed at doing the most good, instead of only helping a select group of men and women who fit the mold while leaving the rest of us in the ill-fitting costume of “brute” or “innocent child”.

  8. In my house, it’s my daughter who plays with swords and my son who plays with dolls. Both sets of toys are available for them to choose. Sometimes my daughter plays with ponies and my son plays with cars. Sometimes they play together with trains. Kids play with what they like, and they also play with what they see the other kids playing with; my daughter started playing with ponies after a friend did.

    When I’m the first to the door, I open it for the people behind me, regardless of gender. It’s not called chivalry, it’s called being polite. I suspect if more people stopped whining about the death of chivalry and started working on being more polite to other people, vis a vis holding doors and lending hands and offering to pay for meals and so on regardless of gender, you’d have your fantasy of a better world realized, while we feminists would have our equality. Everyone wins.

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